Wednesday, July 10, 2019

Powerful Guidance from Kate Randolph



The one and only Kate Randolph
Hello friends, 
Recently I spoke at Kate Randolph's Life Celebration in LA. My charge from her daughter Sarah was to encapsulate Kate's guidance. What an honor. Truly. Kate and I spoke almost every other week for 34 years. I took notes. 

Here's how Kate introduced me to this glorious 
practice: 

It was August of 1985 when we met. 
Kate told me a story that changed my life. In Kate's work for the Great Peace March Across America, she needed to work with the megastar Paul Newman. The first day she was so flustered in his presence she couldn’t even form sentences. That night she chanted for one hour, and came back the next day and could talk to him like he was anyone else on the planet. 
I knew right I’d finally found what I’d been searching for my whole life. A tool that I could use to channel my energy in the direction I wanted it to go. A practical tool for happiness! And she told me I did not have to release my attachment to my desires. I could keep them, and chant for my desires! And my prayers would make the world a better place, and me happy, too.
DONE. I was hooked.
Kate and I became fast friends. We had our babies around the same time, First my son Aaron, then Kate and Hal's daughter Sarah, then my Ben. We vacationed together and raised our children together.
I would call her to get guidance about my challenges and she'd congratulate me for having these problems. She'd assure me that THESE problems were exactly what I needed to get me to the next level of my happiness. They were a benefit. 
Kate put my life in perspective by reminding me that I am a powerful Buddha, by winning in my life others could be inspired by my example and win in theirs. She taught me to turn poison into medicine. 
Basing her life on the Gosho by Nichiren Daishonin and the
words of Daisaku Ikeda she taught me victory:

She taught me to live a life of Victory. The key to Victory 
is making a strong determination to win over our 
problems 
Once we make a determination we may have doubts arise, 
but doubts are not real:
SHe said: 
You have to expect doubts to arrive in your mind. Now is the time to realize they are not real...they are only thoughts in your mind. They are not reality. They are just thoughts and you just pop them out with your prayer  ~ with your eye on the outcomedo battle in your mind and say No No No that is not my reality, that is not reality, that will not be my reality. 
These obstacles and doubts are NOT my reality, these negative thoughts are NOT my reality. Envision your outcome and say YES YES YES YES with each Nam-myoho-renge-kyo. And tell the Shoten Zenjin: YOU will get my back...you have my back...what I envision...my perfect outcome...THAT is my reality and then you add to it: For the sake of all people, I will show actual proof! 

Kate says: Once we decide we will win no matter what
we need only to continue. 
We've already won. 
The battle is with the negative function within. 

All you need to do is make a fresh determination! Live with hope

One of my favorite quotes of Kate's is:

We Breathe Rarified AIR!
By chanting we can ROOT OUT the causes of our suffering!

Faith is Envisioning the outcome exactly as you want it to be as if there were no obstacles and then challenging the doubt in your mind with your Daimoku and send it like arrows through each obstacle, shooting them down as they arrive in your mind. 

That's why I say be FUELED BY YOUR OBSTACLES, not FOOLED BY THEM!

Battling Depression:
In Kate's own battle over depression, she won by focusing on this thought while chanting: I don’t CARE how many times you rear your ugly head. Depression! I will defeat you. I will root the causes and effects of this depression straight out of my life….and she did just that. 

Based on her guidance I wrote this 
PowerPrayer to Defeat Despair:
Written by Jamie Lee Silver, from the blog ChantforHappiness.com


While chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo I would focus on these thoughts and TELL my life who is BOSS:

No way Unhappiness! You will NOT WIN TODAY!
No way anxiety~I am the Buddha!
I don't CARE how many times I have to chant to defeat you. I WILL WIN! For Myself and for all! 
I am a noble, brilliant Buddha! 
I DEMAND a life free from sadness and fear! 
I root the karmic cause of my sadness and fear
right out of my life now!   
I DEMAND that my environment reflects who I really am, 
not my fears or doubts about who I am. 
I DEMAND that I have the courage 
to do Human Revolution 
and to FOREVER break 
those ties to my own unhappiness. 
I am determined to stop making causes that bring me pain! 
I am determined to make causes that bring me happiness! 
Not just for me, but for everyone!
I MUST succeed 
LIFE 
No matter what! 
I choose to be happy!
I choose happiness now! 

With every new obstacle think:  


"This is just another opportunity for your life to stand up and tell your fundamental darkness who is BOSS. This is just another WAVE, just another WAVE. You MUST stand up to it. You must chant with the conviction that there is no other way than your victory. You must summon that conviction from within your heart." 

Kate said: 
Chant for absolute and total conviction
 in your Buddha Nature
and know that you are changing karma 
for your self, 
for your family 
 for your descendants 
and for the world by this prayer

Pray that THIS Daimoku makes the difference!  
Pray that THIS PRAYER changes your karma forever.


Facing death, Kate said to me:

"NOW is the time to wake up to joy. 
Now, more than ever, 
SGI members need to summon joy, 
forget complaining about anything, 
and wear a radiant smile on our faces. 
She says our smiles must radiate so brightly 
that light comes out of our fingertips 
and we glow as beacons 
so people can learn of the mystic law, 
Nam-myoho-renge-kyo from us, 
and be moved to happiness 
just by being in our presence.
Kate said we must have Joy 
to show the possibilities of life...
JOY is a REQUIREMENT, 
not an afterthought, 
and it comes from our determination 
to summon it from within our lives 
and express it in our smiles, 
the pep in our step, 
and our lives themselves. 
We can do this! 
We can do this for ourselves, 
and by doing this we change the world." 

"Our smile is a cause, not an effect." we can't sit around waiting for joy to come into our lives. We must be joyful, and invite more. That's how it works! 

She said: "Joy's the leading edge. Wake up and be joyful, smile at the person next to you in bed, smile at the person next to you at the store, in the elevator, and at other drivers. BE Kosen rufu in action!" 

"It's gotta be real, but you can also fake it till you make it. Put that smile on your face and you will spark your happiness. Try to be sad with a huge grin. It doesn't work so well!

"We have to go deeper into our own lives, and into the Buddha we are every day. We've gotta do this NOW. This is it. This is our time. We're ALIVE! whether we are 17 or 95. Grab the moment for all it's got and say "I am creating the deepest value that's ever been created. NOW. Right this moment. There's no other moment. There's no other person. How are we influencing the person next to us...it is our SMILE...beaming with joy...Joy!"

STOP complaining. NOW. It must be replaced, even if it's phony at first. It may feel phony but it will cause a shift inside your life.  And we have to keep going deeper and deeper into joy. There can't be a place at which we stop. we need constant movement...constantly going deeper." 

Thank you for a lifetime of WISDOM and DETERMINATION Kate. Thank you for showing us Buddhahood by example. Thank you for walking this world as a Buddha with strength and determination alongside your magnificent family, Hal and Sarah. Thank you for always leading the way. Thank you for your grace. And thank you for your poetry and for bringing us closer to Emma Dickinson. (She performed the one-woman-show The Belle of Amherst like none other)
Thank you for always leading with Daimoku and Shakubuku - the spirit and action to lead others. 

And, if we want to continue Kate's marvelous legacy, let's all be joyful right now! Beaming JOY from our fingertips!
Thank you Kate!  


One more note from Jamie: 
I know Kate's guidance lead me to a new status in my professional life.
I recently earned my Certification and Accreditation in Emotional Freedom Techniques through the largest accrediting body in the world, EFT International. I work with people worldwide via the internet. I get a thrill every session when someone comes in with a memory tied to sadness, guilt, shame, grief or some other emotion and leaves with peace of mind and a whole new outlook on life in only one session! Once we free up our emotions from a memory, we are left with wisdom. To find out more go to TapforHappiness.com, or email me at Tapforhappiness@gmail.com




Monday, June 10, 2019

Turn EVERY Poison into Benefit!




Hello Friends! 
I'm in the Chicago Area to produce Ben's Memorial Mile and it's going to be better than ever. It's June 15th on the Outdoor Track of Downers Grove North High School in Downers Grove Illinois from 5:00-9:00pm. Join us! 

As many of you know, after almost three years of struggling with schizophrenia, my 22-year-old son Ben took his life in July of 2015. And I gave myself the task of turning poison into medicine. 

And if I can turn this poison into medicine - just THINK about how you can turn poison into medicine in your own life! Every pain, every suffering, every obstacle has a benefit when you chant in determination to turn poison into medicine. Also, along the way you come to appreciate your troubles. Every. Single. One. This is the way of the Buddha! The way to your happiness!

Every day since then I chant to have our pain turn into medicine to help all who are suffering, and to have Ben's short life make a difference! When he was alive he made a difference through his amazing talents - for running, songwriting, and being an all-around awesome (and genuinely funny) guy. 

Now Bensmemorialmile.com attracts 500 people (and growing) for an evening of games, cheering our running friends on the outdoor track, eating great food, a bags tournament, games of tag, a choir from Ben's High School,  a dance lesson on the field, and so much more. We've raised over $50,000 for suicide prevention and Schizophrenia research. We want to make an even bigger impact this year. 

With the guidance of my sponsor in faith, Kate Randolph (whose Life Celebration I'll be attending and speaking at the San Fernando SGI Center on June 22nd), I kept "Digging Deeper" in my prayer. 

What does "Digging Deeper" mean? I chanted to discover this for myself. What could Kate mean? I chanted for an understanding. And as I chanted the real meaning of our eternal practice for absolute happiness for ourselves and others flowed into me. We are all eternal. Ben's eternal, so am I. My mission here on earth doesn't end when I die...
We are all eternal. So, I chanted to deepen my understanding of life itself. 

At the bottom of this prayer (and I'm still exploring it) is the deep prayer for kosen-rufu, a world of respect for all life. AND so is my personal happiness. We practice to be happy. Daisaku Ikeda says many times: The purpose of life is Happiness. 

So as I go about my week, with three evening fundraisers for Ben's Memorial Mile, a Proclamation by the Mayor, the cover story in the local newspaper...and Ben's Memorial Mile on Saturday, I am determined to cherish every moment with every person I'm with. I am advancing in Joy, in Happiness, with the Gohonzon and in faith. When we have the determination to turn poison into medicine and deepen our faith, all is possible! 
(I'm also giving two Grief Relief Workshops this week in the Chicago Area. So exciting!)

Sunday, June 2, 2019

Chanting with the Buddhas!

From Daisaku Ikeda: 

"Though we may seem 
to be chanting alone, 
we are not. 
As we chant, 
untold billions of heavenly deities 
are facing the Gohonzon with us. 
In this way, 
the protective forces of the universe assemble en masse (altogether)
and work to safeguard each one of you, 
manifesting in your environment 
and the actions of the people near you, 
the actions of your friends and fellow members." 

Daisaku Ikeda

This quote is really inspiring me these days. As I work to broaden my impact as a Certified and Accredited Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Practitioner, it helps to know that I am not alone. 

Every morning when I face the Gohonzon and chant, my first prayer is for the untold billions of deities within my life, body and spirit to wake up and greet the untold billion deities on the Gohonzon.

And I chant for all who are seeking peace from debilitating grief, or the agony of emotional eating with no end in sight, to FIND ME, (through my website https://JamieLeeSilver.com) and realize I have something profound to teach them. All for Kosen Rufu! I chant to have victory in my business, and have my life inspire people that they can end their suffering and experience true joy. 


Just like any true professional in the SGI, I strive to make President Ikeda proud of me as his successor, by my professionalism, passion and experience.  

I have already helped so many while I was going through the certification process and with the clients I'm already attracting. (And working with through ZOOM or Skype all over the world) It's all a matter of faith, right? 

And knowing that untold billions of heavenly deities are with me as I chant my two hours every day. Well, it just boosts my spirit, my daimoku, my hope, and determination. I am the Buddha. And so are you! 

No matter what you are facing, Daimoku will get you through. Please remember that I love you all, but I can't give individual guidance because I am not your personal senior in faith. Please go to your senior for guidance. That is the beauty of the Soka Gakkai. 

May Contribution!

And today is the last day for May contribution in the states. Yesterday, as I made my last contribution payment I wept in gratitude for all this practice has meant to me for the last 35 years. I am humbled and in awe of the power of Nam-myoho-renge-kyo. As my sponsor Kate Randolph was so fond of saying "We Buddhists breathe rarified air. 

Ben's Memorial Mile!

Those of you who know me, know that overcoming grief is something near and dear to my heart. When my beloved son Benjamin Lee Silver came down with schizophrenia and lost his battle to suicide almost four years ago, Ben's Memorial Mile Family Festival and Running Gala was born out of my determination to turn poison into medicine (and with the support of several dedicated committee members who really took the lead). So far we have raised over $50,000 for suicide prevention and schizophrenia research. 

Ben's Memorial Mile is right around the corner! It's June 15th in Downers Grove, Illinois on the Outdoor Track at Ben's High School, Downers Grove North in Downers Grove. Check out Bensmemorialmile.com to see some videos, read about our progress, or sign up and come out. Spectators don't need to register. There are tons of fun things to do...a bags tournament, dance lesson, relay games, great music, and a chance to run and walk, or just watch and be a part of the wonderful and warm environment Ben, and his family and friends have created.  

With my son Aaron (the doctor in Phoenix!) and Ben, before he got sick. This picture was taken after we attended a meeting at the Chicago SGI Buddhist Center. Both of my sons adopted this practice as their own. 

Sending love to you all! 

Friday, March 29, 2019

New Beginnings!

Hello, my friends. Thank you for writing to me and for keeping me in touch with what you are doing. 

I have some exciting news. For the past four months, I have been dedicating myself to learning from two excellent  Mentors of EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, Alina Frank and Craig Weiner, founders of EFT Tapping Training. I'll be a Certified EFT Practitioner by next week. I'm already helping people with Stress-Relief, Grief-Relief and Weight Loss.  

Every day I've been chanting for an hour to master EFT so I can help people gain freedom from the emotions and core beliefs that are running in the background of our lives like APPS. 

You know how it is. You KNOW not to do something. And even though you try your hardest, you do it anyway. Or there's that person who is not so great for you, but you can't seem to move on. Well EFT gently helps you release the emotions that have been in control...and when you release these emotions you have WISDOM and freedom to make new choices. You see things differently. Using EFT has profoundly changed my life. And the best thing about it - it's a self-help technique that I teach my clients to do. I'm a teacher! 

Over the past year, using EFT and chanting, I've released 35 pounds and am on my way to a new profession. 

But, it doesn't replace chanting. I still base my life around chanting. The Gohonzon is at the core of all the power in my life. I love the Gohonzon, this practice and the SGI with all my heart. becoming an EFT Practitioner is similar to becoming any type of professional. It is a career choice. 

Every day I greet the Buddhist gods on the Gohonzon 
with appreciation and have the Buddhas in every cell in my body spring into action for kosen rufu...for my own happiness and the happiness of the world. That's my starting prayer...feeling every cell wake up and say "YES!"

I've introduced my closest friend in St. Pete to this practice and she amazes me with her insights and wisdom. She is a licensed counselor and EFT Practitioner with a strong Buddhist practice. How awesome. 

So, I thought you might want to have an update. We've been through a lot together, haven't we? When I first started this blog I was heartbroken and depressed. My sweet Mom died that fall. And a few years later my sweet Boy Ben got sick. Many of you were chanting for Ben. When he became eternal I thought of all of you first, and was determined to turn poison into medicine to show you that death doesn't have to mean defeat. 

Those prayers resulted in my first book "Our Forever Ben, One Mom's Letters to Her Son-in-Spirit and his poetic replies." (Available on Amazon.) I'm enjoying doing grief relief work for individuals and groups. Such fulfilling work!  

And here I am. In July it will have been four years. We're deep into the planning of the Fourth Annual Bens Memorial Mile Family Festival and Running Gala on June 15th in Downers Grove, Illinois outside of Chicago. We have raised more than 50K for Schizophrenia research and suicide prevention. You'll find a lot of cool things at BensMemorialmile.com including his music and the film made for him by Aaron. Join us in any way you wish!

My amazing son Aaron is in his last year of residency in Phoenix. He's been a doctor for three years now and he's flourishing with a strong Buddhist practice as a Vice District Leader. I'm so proud. 

And I'm still living on St. Pete Beach, enjoying every moment. I'm in the process of building a new website, and launching a new blog called TapforHappiness.com. 

You are always free to write to me at Jamie@JamieleeSilver.com. 
Please remember that I do not give guidance of any kind. I will direct you to your local senior leaders. It's just best that way. They are there for you and fostering relationships with them is better for you. 

(If you are interested in knowing more about their classes in EFT you can click on their link at the bottom to find out about EFT trainings near you: 
https://www.efttappingtraining.com/events/?ap_id=JamieLeeSilver


Thursday, January 3, 2019

Fresh Determinations for a Power-Full New Year!



Happy New Year!

I'm still here! I'm chanting and refreshing my vow and determinations every day in front of my Gohonzon. 

I have many determinations for the new year. And yes, some of them are determinations that I continue to make every year. But as my mentor, Amos Snell always asked "How many times do you have to remake a determination? 365 times a year!" I might also add, every second of every day!

So I have new determinations and I'm celebrating the successes of 2018. (I lost 30 pounds - very happy about that! I made many friends, and much more) 

My shakubuku is doing great. She just passed her year Gohonzon Birthday and she continues to amaze me with the depths of her wisdom and her seeking mind to study. From the beginning, she felt the Buddhas and Boddhisatvas in the Gohonzon and in her life through her prayers while chanting.  And she has refreshed my spirit to commune with them in prayer every morning and evening. 

I chant to feel all the Buddhas on the Gohonzon, and in the Universe and in my Being expressing themselves through each of my cells - so that I can fulfill my vow for kosen-rufu -(world peace through the full expression of my life force). 

Danny Nagashima was recently here, and he impressed on me the value of chanting with my vow each and every day. 

As I feel these powerful Buddhas rejoicing during my daimoku, I am connected to all that is good and right and feels so good. I chant in appreciation - and to expand my appreciation every day. I chant to quiet my critical mind, and bring forth my appreciative spirit! 

For New Year's Gongyo my shakubuku and I did Toban at the Tampa Bay Center from 9:00 am until 12:00 noon. It was a great way to start the new year. 
And I re-heard a prayer I've re-incorporated into my chanting: 

"Chant for the wisdom that functions in accordance with changing circumstances." 
I believe this is a quote from Daisaku Ikeda but I did not catch the reference to site for you. 

How deep, how profound. 

In each moment, how do we know what to do, how to act, how to feel, think etc? 
Somehow we must trust our own lives, the purpose-full source and flow of our beings, and direct that flow while allowing for unexpected and delightful surprises. Channeling it all through our vow and prayers each morning and evening makes for the riches of lives! 

Last night I flowed into a most inspiring and unexpected concert right here on the beach. True musicianship expressed through friendship. It was deeply uplifting. Tonight I'm bringing my friends to see these same musicians at another venue. They are only in town for the weekend. Enjoying our lives is one of the other things Danny Nagashima always mentions! 

For this year, I am determined to earn my Certification as an EFT Tapping Professional. As some of you know, I've been Tapping since 2012, and used this form of energy clearing - acupuncture without needles, for clearing stuck emotion (energy) and creation of cognitive change ~ throughout my son's illness and my healing from his death. 

Tapping and Chanting have been the cornerstones of my life. Chanting first. And using Tapping every day as well. 

I'm thrilled to have found mentors and a program to bring me to official certification through the Association for the Advancement of Meridian Energy Techniques. 

I will not be licensed, and I will work with people on the emotions behind whatever is causing their suffering - (grief, pain, fear), in conjunction with licensed health professionals. 

My goal is to complete my 50 practice Tapping sessions and the other requirements within six months or sooner, and to find a job that will support me as I do this. 

I hope you are starting the year strong and well. I have many health determinations as well. 

Let's win together along with our mentor in faith Daisaku Ikeda!