I am just like many of you...chanting for my partner for kosen rufu. Yesterday I got guidance I want to share with you. As always, I share from my heart, as an earnest practitioner, not in any official SGI capacity.
In guidance our leaders in the SGI do not tell us what to do, but they do help us to steer our daimoku and practice in the direction we want to go. This senior has been happily married for almost 40 years.
After we talked a while she proposed I "date the Gohonzon." And this really intrigued me. I thought:
"Oh, that makes so much sense!
The Gohonzon is, after all, my life itself."
She proposed I fall in love with the Gohonzon (myself).
That I greet my life in chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo as I would someone I love and cherish...that I speak to it (have in my mind while chanting) loving words and filled with appreciation. I get it.
This morning I followed this guidance.
As I chanted I poured love from my heart into the Gohonzon...and I felt deep feelings of appreciation.
As I was doing this I felt love for my own self welling forth. As Buddhists we all know that our lives are a reflection of our own inner lives. It only makes sense to develop deeper feelings for our own lives...so this strikes a real chord with me.
She proposed I apologize for any past slander of my own life (comparing myself to others, and/or not feeling equal or good enough). Okay, I can do that too!
And she proposed I make a list of all I am looking for in a life mate...a new list. And then she asked me to take a look at it and ask myself I have those same qualities in myself. And, if I feel I fall short in any area, to chant to develop those qualities in myself.
I think this is a really wise idea. I am going to do it today. And I'm going to continue to "date" the Gohonzon (scroll that represents my own life) and refocus on what I am looking for for a life mate...someone who can embrace the Gohonzon as I do, someone honest and kind with a twinkle in his eyes, a light heart and a commitment to ongoing personal awakening and expansion.