Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Turn "Why Me?" Into "Yes Me!" and Change Your Karma Immediately!

We've all been there. 
We've all had that moment when we can't believe that WE, after however many years of practice, are facing a HUGE OBSTACLE. Even though we KNOW that we summoned this storm of obstacles as the perfect exercise to strengthen our faith and get take our lives to the next level...sometimes it doesn't feel like that!  

It seems, sometimes, that no matter how much we study, and we KNOW huge obstacles bring huge benefits, and HUGE obstacles come to people making HUGE POSITIVE CAUSES, that sometimes obstacles still, as my mother would say, "throw us for a loop." (I wonder where that phrase came from?) and we go into Obstacle Shock. 
I guess we could also call this a "reactionary" phase. Sometimes I call it the "Wah Wah Wah" phase, when my life is reeling from the impact of a huge obstacle. 

What is "Obstacle Shock?" How do we know we're in it? 
Here are some recent observations from my own experience:

3 Ways to know 
You're in "Obstacle Shock

by Jamie Lee Silver from Chantforhappiness.com

1. When we're in "Obstacle Shock" we go around with the constant thought "This can't be happening to me. These things happen to other people; not to me," and our brain gets caught in the endless "Why me?" loop. We wonder how we could have drawn this obstacle into our lives and are dumbfounded to find a karmic connection. It just feels unreal...like we're living someone else's life.  It can be hard to concentrate on anything, whether it's chanting, or work, or....anything. 

2. It is HARD to chant. Really hard to chant. Hard to focus. Some people stop chanting altogether. Most of us soldier on...every morning and evening doing our very best to connect...but somehow feeling "off our game", and if feels as if our Daimoku just isn't as powerful as it usually is. We may feel as if we are going through the motions. 

4. We pull away from our friends in faith. Not always. But sometimes. When it comes time to go to a meeting it may feel like we're just out of synch, and it's easier to say "Oh I'm going through this incredible obstacle, I just don't have time to get to a meeting now!" Or "I can't call members to encourage them! I have ________obstacle going on now!" And of course, we know, somewhere deep inside that it's more important than ever to get to that meeting! The time to change this is now. The faster we get out of Obstacle Shock the better! 

4 Ways to turn "Why Me" into "Yes Me!" and advance Powerfully Into Victory! 

1. We keep chanting, even when it feels like we're "out of synch" or that somehow our prayer doesn't feel as deep. We keep chanting, and studying!

2. We don't make ourselves "wrong" for feeling this way, and struggling to chant. We remember it's a natural part of the practice, and keep going to the best of our ability. 

3. We nurture ourselves. We do what feels good to us. We are our own best friends. What feels good to you? Yoga, being with friends, walking, energy healing, massage, writing, singing? Whatever it is...do it! 

4. Use the organization. It is here for all of us! The Soka Gakkai is full of individuals sharing their joy and determination. It is up to each of us to use it! We can always Invite others to chant with us...or go to their homes. And we know we will "Click Back In" when we persevere, and are able to switch our attention back to our mission for kosen-rufu. 

I had a woman from LA encouraging me when I was getting out of Obstacle Shock. She said everything changed for her when she re~embraced her mission for kosen rufu and began focusing on shakubukuing youth. She ended up being invited in to speak to youth who were struggling, and helped many families to begin their Buddhist practice. She took her own HUGE obstacle and turned it into a HUGE benefit. She "Clicked Back In" and achieved Victory for herself and her family. 

Our challenge is to get to the other side of "Obstacle Shock" and turn "Why Me" into "Yes Me!" where we click back in to our missions as Boddhisatvas of the earth. If we persevere this will definitely happen! 

Daisaku Ikeda says: 

"The important thing is to advance brightly, 
to strive for victory each moment, 
right where we are; 
to begin something here and now 
instead of worrying over what may happen. 
This is the starting point for transforming our lives."

Faith in Action, page 75

1 comment:

  1. hello Jamie,
    lately i am going through major obstacles my self.
    i moved in to a new place some time back, my old city had the best of members and we had become incredible friends. but here i feel so alone, i cannot connect well with the members also i have developed a sort of inferiority complex for myself(its not a small thing but a huge one, i dont go out, dont interact, dont study, dont work) my life is going through a mess, my family is doing everything possible to further worsen the situation, i am not close to them but i live with them.
    each day is like being in hell , no matter how positive i become, i chant at times but still my life is miserable stuck.
    please help me out, im desperate.