Hope For Heartbreak

I get many emails about heartsick love. 

And believe me, those who read this blog know that I am no stranger to the real, gut wrenching pain associated with loving someone who does not love you in return. It actually physically hurts, doesn't it? 
But I am living proof that it is possible to, as President Ikeda says in the following quote, "forge ahead" and I have emerged with "a more wonderful me." It did not happen overnight. But it did happen. And you can emerge from any kind of pain if you keep moving forward. I chanted many hours to strengthen my life from within and build a strong core of resilience. Daimoku Works! 

I'm just writing today to encourage any of you who are still feeling this deep, deep wound of the heart. Keep advancing. Keep chanting. And the clouds in your heart will go away and the sun will shine. 

From Daisaku Ikeda, 

"The important thing 
is to overcome the sorrow 
that accompanies any type of separation, 
such as death or divorce. 

The vital thing is to continue advancing. 

Do not look back. 

Just forge on. 

There are many reasons 
why people bid farewell to one another. 
People have their own thoughts and situations. 
The deep scars within your heart may not heal quickly. 
Yet brace yourself so you can look forward. 
You should strive to move on, 
cutting through the clouds in your heart. 
As long as you advance, 
new hope will be born. 
The sun will rise. 
Only when you continue to advance 
can you encounter an even better, 
more wonderful you."
Daisaku Ikeda, from Ikedaquotes.org under "Love and Marriage" 

About a Broken Heart

Dear readers, 
I received a comment from a woman with a broken heart. She's been chanting for five months and the man that she was in love with left her and has gone away. I wish to address her here:
Dear Broken Hearted, 
Please do not give up. I can truly understand. The reason I began this blog almost two years ago was my broken heart. I was longing for a man who went away. Every morning I would wake up with his face in my mind...and I felt a constant physical ache in my belly....constant...real pain. It was hard to breathe sometimes. I felt like I was living in a nightmare of hell. 
Because of the suffering I went through then...and my fierce determination to change my life from the INSIDE so that I would never ever experience this intense pain again...this blog was born, and so was my incredibly beautiful life that I have now. 
The broken heart spurred me to chant 2 hours a day and sit in front of the Gohonzon chanting from the bottom of my soul to CHANGE MY KARMA FOREVER....to CHANGE WHATEVER WAS IN MY LIFE THAT ATTRACTED THIS HEARTACHE....AND to LOVE MYSELF SO MUCH....that this kind of pain would go away forever. 
Of course I spent a lot of time chanting to get him back too...because I believe that chanting sincerely for what you really want is the fuel that fires all your results in life. So I chanted to have him back...and gradually, over time, found other prayers that became more important to me. 
I embraced my district and chanted for each person every day. I chanted to change the heartache in my life for the sake of every woman who ever suffered in this way. 
I really know how you feel. 
If you can sit in front of your Gohonzon and chant resonant NAM MYOHO RENGE KYO for exactly what you desire...you will win. Don't worry if your desire is "correct"...ALL your desires are correct. They are yours. Chant from the bottom of your heart. USE THIS PAIN TO FUEL YOUR BEAUTIFUL FUTURE!
Here I am two years later, almost out of a marriage that was long over...I have my own sweet, beautiful little apartment in a gorgeous area with a pond, a pool and a health club. I have a miraculous new job where I am able to really have an impact on the lives of young people. I have so many friends, and even a new boyfriend who loves to make me happy, not sad. And my happiness doesn't depend on him or anything else. My focus is on doing my own human revolution, knowing that any real change happens within my life and is reflected on the outside in everything and everyone. 
That is the real key in life. Follow President Ikeda's Guidance. Chant for those you love...and those you don't love...and you WILL free yourself  from this pain. 
I promise.