Thursday, December 19, 2013

How do we Love Ourselves, Really LOVE Ourselves?



A reader asked me to write about developing love for ourselves. What a wonderful request. Thank you so much! 

As the great woman sage of our time, Louise Hay says, loving ourselves is the most important thing we can do. All our happiness is ultimately based on this. And as Buddhists we innately understand that the love we feel for ourselves is reflected back at us every moment in the mirror that is our life. 

And Daisaku Ikeda has the key in this quote...facing our weaknesses is the real source of developing self love and mastery: 

The important thing is to firmly fix our gaze on our own weaknesses, not run away from them, but to battle them head-on and establish a solid self that nothing can sway. Hardships forge and polish our lives, so that eventually they shine with brilliant fortune and benefit. If left in its raw, unpolished form, even the most magnificent gem will not sparkle. The same applies to our lives.
From Ikedaquotes.org

For me, learning to love myself has been a life-long endeavor. From earliest memory I experienced shame and depression. I don't know where it came from...it was my karma. It was what I chose to come into this world with...so I could change it and be a Bodhisattva for everyone who is suffering. My motto has always been "If I can do it, I can encourage others."

Of course I knew self-love was one of the most important keys to unlocking this door, but wondered how do I achieve this? How do I turn it from a good idea to reality? How can I experience loving my own self? 

I have used many, many ways to build self-love. I find the solution in my Daimoku and in my body. When I began doing a form of Yoga I released energy that was holding me back. That was a turning point for me. part of the Yoga training I received required us to say to ourselves every night and every morning "I love you _____" to ourselves (Fill in your name here) That was not easy! I did it as faithfully as I could, and it made me realize I still had a lot to change to really believe this.  

Through study of Nichiren Daishonin's Gosho, Daisaku Ikeda's writings, and through my dear SGI friends in faith I embedded in my daimoku the continual prayer to experience life as the Buddha I am...to see myself as the Buddha I am...to love and respect myself as the Buddha I am..to be humble and open to changing in any way to be more aware of my Buddhahood...and to be the most inspiring, glowing Buddha I can be. We are all Buddhahood Rising! I've chanted to strengthen my inner core and to feel the glowing essence of the diamond I am within my life. I do these things so I can help YOU to realize these things within your life. 

We are the Buddha. We are the Diamond. We are strength itself. We are awakening in love for ourselves and love for others...even the difficult ones. They need our prayers. If they were not suffering, they would not make others suffer. We are all walking paths of such honor and respect...chanting for people on our paths...chanting for kosen-rufu, a world of respect for all beings. We are the magnificent Bodhisattvas of the Earth. We have arisen. We can love ourselves JUST AS WE ARE...and continually strive to be better people, to love ourselves and others more. That is our chosen path. It is such an honor to walk it along with you. 

Have wisdom to offer the other 35,000 readers of this blog? Share ways you have come to love and honor yourself please write me at chantforhappiness@gmail.com. You can also email me questions or comments. 

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Beating the Holiday Blues with Daimoku


It is the holidays here in the states and in many places around the world. Sometimes during this time we really miss a loved one who has died. Daisaku Ikeda offers us these wise words: 

"The experience of losing a loved one impels us toward a deeper understanding of life. Everyone fears and is saddened by death. That is natural. But by struggling to overcome the pain and sadness that accompanies death, we become sharply aware of the dignity and preciousness of life and develop the compassion to share the sufferings of others as our own."
Daisaku Ikeda Ikedaquotes.org

Four years ago my Mom died right before the holidays in November. Some of you have been reading this blog since that time. And, at least in the case of my Mom, it is true that time and my daimoku has healed most of the wounds. 

To heal the wounds I had to challenge my own negativity. I had a recurrent thought that would wake me up in the middle of the night. I thought "What if we could have done more to keep her alive? What if we gave up too soon?" And then I talk to my sister or another family member and they recount her last days and I am reassured, once again, that we did the right thing. And I recognize that the voice asking those questions is my own inner darkness, tailor-made to bring me down. 

That's the thing about our fundamental darkness - it knows our weaknesses - it knows just how to get us. And that's why, sometimes we don't even see it for what it it - fundamental darkness - and we just think we are somehow BAD. Thank goodness we can chant every day and be returned to the Buddha we are. That's our opportunity every single day...we can be restored as Buddhas...and build our own awareness of our Buddha Nature. I often recommend we chant to raise our life condition. With a raised life condition our problems seem small...are small...and are easier for us to conquer. 

If we are complaining, not smiling, and feeling down we know our life condition is low. And what's often happens is the environment, of course, zings us just at this time because it is a reflection of our life condition. 

But we have the solution to any problem. All we have to do is recognize once again that we are capable of generating resilience and strength through our own Daimoku. When we chant Nam-myoho-renge-kyo we are having a dialogue with our own lives. The question is "Who is BOSS?" is it your fundamental darkness or is it US? We can SHOW our life condition who is boss when we chant. We can tell our life to wake up! We are so fortunate. We can chant every day like this. 

Write me at chantforhappiness@gmail.com with any questions or comments. I'm thinking of you all this holiday season. 

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Developing Appreciation ~ Inspiring Quote from Daisaku Ikeda

Appreciation

I sit here today watching the beautiful, fluffy snowfall in Chicago...basking in the glow of my life, celebrating my incredible good fortune. This is more guidance from the Arts Division FNCC Conference. Enjoy!

Appreciation is what makes people truly human.... 

Having a spirit of appreciation for someone from whose actions we benefit,  
a sense that 
'This is the, rarest and noblest thing," 
produces in our hearts 
a feeling of pride and self-esteem: 
"I am worthy of receiving such goodness." 
It provides us with spiritual support to go on living 

Because of these people, 
am able to express my art. 
When we chant to develop appreciation
it opens closed parts of our life 
to new ways of seeing 
that we can't do without appreciation.
The path of the Bodhisattva 
lies in supremely humane action. 
When we pray, 
speak out 
and take action 
for the happiness of a friend, 
the eternal life of the universe 
manifests through our thoughts, 
words and deeds. 

Daisaku Ikeda, Dialogue on the Lotus Sutra, Living Buddhism, January 1998, p.42

Monday, December 16, 2013

Guidance from Sensei on Becoming the most Capable and Valuable Person in Your Profession


Guidance from Vice President Hasagawa at the FNCC Arts Division Conference May 13, 2000.

Becoming a Capable and Valuable Person in your Profession

In Japan,high school baseball is more popular than professional baseball. Everyone follows it. During the school year, there are many tournaments and at the end of the year
there is a national tournament between the top high school teams from throughout Japan. This occurs in Tokyo's major sports arena. Everyone in Japan knows the teams and the players and follows very closely. Ten years ago, the Soka High School team made it to this final tournament in Tokyo.

They lost in the first game, but it was still a great victory since only the best of the best make it that far.

On this team, the best player was a left-handed pitcher. He was graduating from Soka High School and was the #l draft pick of a professional baseball team, so he would not be back the next year. The coach of the team reported to Sensei, "Our ace pitcher was drafted and is gone. We are not as strong as we were; I believe our capability is lower, but we will chant and become a greater and more capable team."

Sensei said, "You are wrong. You should have enough capability to win without having to go back and chant. Become capable and then your daimoku will be a wind behind your capability. If you are relying on daimoku to make it happen rather than on your own capability then you are just using faith like a superstition. You should practice and, therefore, become capable.

The team which becomes most capable will be the one which practices and works the hardest and has the most perseverance. Capability is very important because it requires constant courage and training, but if your capability counts only 50% and then you base the other 50% on daimoku to the Gohonzon to bring it about "somehow," then your religion has become a crutch for you. Religion is not there to hide your shortcomings, but to strengthen you as human beings."

In the Lotus Sutra, reference is made many times to "drums and trumpets," which accompany other actions. What it means is that the drums and trumpets are supportive of the other actions, or are the encouragement of the actions. For our purpose, the "drums and trumpets'' represent the encouragement, which comes from within our life to reinforce our life condition. In other words our "drums and trumpets" is our daimoku in this effort. It is like a breeze, which pushes us forward. For example, the capability or talent, which you wish to develop, is like your constructing a magnificent sailing ship, tall-masted schooner with many sails. 

You have to construct the best ship in the world, with the most solid framework, the strongest masts and the fullest sails. When you have constructed this sailing ship, your daimoku becomes the strong wind, which propels your sailing ship forward.



Saturday, December 14, 2013

If I can Change My Karma So Can YOU!

Chicago at Night


All of us singing Christmas Carols at the Bean in Millenium Park

The domed Pool I've always loved!
The photos above are from last night...capping a magical week in which I got a wonderful job, met a wonderful man, and made many friends. The picture of the pool above is significant. This pool has always represented a dream of the "unattainable"...the way "other people live" and the glamorous life. I've been looking at this pool since I was a little girl and we would drive by it on our way from Oak Park to Evanston. Well...I have changed my karma and I feel that everything is possible...because I am a different person. I am so happy and full of gratitude. I have broken through my lesser self...I am experiencing life as the Buddha...something that is available to ALL of us through this practice. Last night I was at a party in this gorgeous high rise, and I've been asked to spend four days after Christmas housesitting in my new friend's gorgeous apartment overlooking all of Chicago...what a benefit! This apartment is walking distance to the theater district and perfectly situated on the magical lakefront.

I have seriously changed my karma! And as the title of this post says, "If I can do it so can you." There is no Buddha that is superior to another. I am awakened to the infinite potential in my life, and so are you. And if you don't give up...all YOUR dreams will come true too. Keep Going! Go Buddha Go! 

What is the key to absolute happiness? BUILDING the happiness from within through doing shakubuku, encouraging members, and winning over our own negativity. All of these benefits, the apartment, the job, etc. would have no real meaning if I didn't feel so different INSIDE. I am already happy. These "things" are a reflection of the changes I have achieved INSIDE. 

What did I change on the inside of my life?  I changed the fundamental tendency to be ashamed of my life. I changed the feeling  of being "un-loved." I always "knew" that I had to change this tendency to not love myself, and to somehow love myself. I KNEW that once I did this I would attract and recognize the deepest kind of love in my life. I knew this would draw my soulmate to me, but thinking about it and wishing for it was not the key to accomplishing it. No. I changed it by using Nam-myoho-renge-kyo to fight my own negativity, and by helping others to become absolutely happy. 

I think back to the days before November 18th when I was chanting to shakubuku a suffering youth. I chanted more than 10 hours in the few days before November 18th..."Let me find ONE youth that I can bring to get his/her Gohonzon...and this youth can find faith and encourage others...and on and on." And after that 10 hours I received a call from a young man whom I brought to get Gohonzon the next day. Somehow in those hours in front if the Gohonzon I realized the Gohonzon within my life...not with my mind..but IN my life. 

And here I am. In love with myself and all of life. I am sending you Daimoku on this day...going off to have another marvelous day, and thinking of you, all my friends all over the world, and saying Don't Give Up!!! Don't Give Up! 

Write me at chantforhappiness@gmail.com. 


Friday, December 13, 2013

What Does Nam-myoho-renge-kyo Mean?

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo: the original PowerPrayer.

The following is an excerpt from the book Science and the Practice of Buddhism by William Woollard (permission granted) 

What Nam-myoho-renge-kyo means...

Let's look at a more detailed and yet wholly practical account of the meaning of Nam-myoho-renge-kyo. Not one that carries us off into the deepest realms, but one that might serve as a working model, bearing in mind that if it stimulates you to want to know more you can seek out more references at the end of this book. 

Nam-myoho-renge-kyo is the original and ultimate power prayer, and contained within these syllables arise innumerable meanings. These explorations are excerpted from Oxford graduate and documentary film maker, William Woollard's book, Buddhism and the Science of Happiness. We have added to Woollard's excellent consideration our own additional information or formatting especially where it pertains to the creation of power prayers (in different colored text, for clarity.)

Nam:
So, the word nam comes from the sanskrit word namas and although it is commonly translated as, to devote oneself to, it has a very wide range of meanings. Perhaps the most important among those are the phrases 'to summon up' or 'awaken,' or to 'draw forth' or 'to make great effort.' It is also interpreted to mean 'to take refuge within' or 'to fuse one's life with.' Why is knowing about these different meanings helpful? Because they express subtle differences in our approach or our state of mind when we are chanting at different times. When we are faced with something of a crisis, for example, we may well be thinking about summoning up or making great effort rather than just awakening.

In terms of the practice of power prayer, you will see that we are choosing our very particular meaning of Nam to use at the beginning of the prayers themselves.

Myoho:
Myoho ultimately describes the profound relationship between the very essence of life, or the life force inherent throughout the universe and the literally millions of physical forms in which that life force is manifest or expressed. In Buddhism, everything that exists, sentient and insentient, is both a manifestation of that life force, and subject to the eternal rhythm of life … formation, continuation, decline and disintegration. Everything is subject to that process of change, of impermanence as it is often called. As Nichiren Daishonin defines that thought,

Myo is the name given to the mystic nature of life, and ho to its manifestations.” 
Myoho is made up of two elements, myo, which refers to the unseen or spiritual element that is inherent in all things and ho which refers to the tangible, physical manifestation which we can apprehend with our senses. In Buddhism all things, all phenomena have a myo aspect and a ho aspect. They are two different but inseparable aspects of life, “two but not two” as Buddhism expresses it, as inextricably interlinked as the two sides of a sheet of paper. You cannot have one without the other.

Thus the ho aspect of a painting for example, is made up of the canvas and the paint that is spread across it. The myo aspect is the feeling or the emotion or the creative energy within the artist as s/he applied the paint in a particular way, and the emotional impact upon us as we view it. Music, similarly, has a clearly recognizable ho aspect in the arrangement of the black and white marks or the notes on the page, and the physical vibrations produced by the instruments as they interpret them. The profound myo aspect is the effect the music has on our emotions and feelings, as we receive the sounds produced by the instruments in that particular sequence. As Shakespeare expressed it so pithily in Much Ado About Nothing... “it is wholly inexplicable that a sequence of sounds produced on violin strings made out of the guts of a sheep... can move our heart so readily to tears!”

If we think of ourselves, ho is used to refer to all the elements in our physical make up that can be observed with the senses, our appearance, the way we stand, the way we walk and talk, the way we gesture with our hands and the various expressions we use to communicate. All the things in fact that enable someone to recognize us as who we are.

But what is quite clear is that so many of those physical gestures and movements, the expression in our eyes and the tone and modulation of the voice, the animation in the face, the posture of the body are also an expression of our inner life, our myo. The two aspects are, as we have said, inextricably interwoven. As we practice and seek to strengthen the vitality of the myo or spiritual aspect of our lives, there is no question that it has a powerful effect upon our physical persona, the expression on our face, the look in our eyes, our tone of voice, our readiness to smile and so on.
Those are perhaps very obvious examples. Rather more difficult to understand, indeed one of the most difficult concepts to accept, particularly if you have a background in science,I suspect, is the Buddhist belief that all material existence, everything on earth and in the universe, both animate and inanimate has a physical and a spiritual aspect. Everything but everything, we are told, has both myo and ho. The tree, the rock, the river, the mountain. A difficult idea undoubtedly, although Buddhism of course, is by no means alone in holding this view. Throughout the length and breadth of human history, artists and poets have been constantly seeking to open our eyes to this truth, in all languages and in all cultures.

Wordsworth,for example, when he famously described the dance of a bunch of daffodils,

“The waves beside then danced; but they outdid the sparkling waves in glee:

A poet could not be but gay,
in such a jocund company,
I gazed and gazed... but little thought
What wealth the show to me had brought;
for oft when on my couch I lie,
In vacant or in pensive mood,
They flash upon my inward eye,
Which is the bliss of solitude,
And then my heart with pleasure fills
and dances,with the daffodils.”

Buddhism stresses this aspect of the continuity and association that runs through all things, so that we are not separate from but closely linked to everything around us. Thus, in Buddhist terms, statements such as being in harmony with, or being at odds with one's environment may not be simply casual figures of speech, they can represent a fundamental truth; a truth that is the basis for the Buddhist principle of oneness of self and environment. This argues that as we change, gradually strengthening and revealing our Buddha  nature through our practice, so that change resonates throughout our environment, sending out beneficial ripples in all directions.

A Horse and Cart... or Horses and Cart:

One analogy that paints a graphic if somewhat simplified picture of the relationship between our myo and ho is that of the horse and cart, or horses and cart to be more accurate.

Our life is the cart, pulled along by our myo horse, or our deepest spiritual energy, and our ho horse, our physical life. In general it is true to say that we are accustomed to spending a great deal of time and effort nurturing the strength and well being of our ho horse, because it is so visible and so physically accessible to us. We can look at it in the mirror for example, and worry about its shape. We can feed it three times a day, and take it to the gym to work out, and off to play sports to ensure that it's kept fit and healthy and suitably diverted. As a result we tend very much to equate our happiness or our sense of well being with how well we are getting on with looking after our ho horse.

By contrast we tend to spend relatively little time if any, nurturing and exercising our myo horse, because of course it is wholly unseen and in general has a less powerful presence. The result is imbalance. The wagon of our life is at best pulled strongly off in one direction, the direction governed by our physical needs. At worst it is pulled round and round in circles, repeating patterns of behavior, because the spiritual side of our make up simply hasn't been nurtured enough to influence, to change that is, our habitual behavior.(underlining added)

So, we can become very much creatures of habit, tending to repeat patterns of behavior even when they lead to pain and suffering. 

What we need to do, Buddhism argues, is to become aware of the danger of imbalance, and to allocate more time and energy to keeping both the ho and the myo horses in a healthy state.

Renge:
Renge means lotus flower. It also means cause and effect. The lotus flower, adopted as the title of Shakyamuni's ultimate teaching is an immensely significant symbol in Buddhism for many reasons. It is a plant with a particularly beautiful flower that grows and flourishes most strongly, in mucky, muddy, swampy environments. In this sense it is taken to symbolize the great potential locked up in every human life, the promise that we can build strong and positive and flourishing lives, however difficult the circumstances and the environment we find ourselves in.

Moreover, the lotus happens to carry both blossoms and seed pods at the same time, simultaneously, and in this sense, it is seen to symbolize one of the fundamental and most important principles of Buddhism known as the simultaneity of cause and effect. Once again, it is a principle with which Buddhism asks us to challenge the way we are accustomed to thinking about our everyday lives and relationships. Basically it argues that every cause we make, good, bad and indifferent plants a balancing effect in our lives, that will, without fail, sooner or later, make itself felt. Thus there is, for all of us, an on-going chain of causes and effects. That is, if you like, the fundamental dynamic of our lives, it ties together the past and the present and the future. Buddhism argues that only by coming to understand this can we grasp fully what it means to take responsibility for our actions, and change those inherent tendencies that are causing us to suffer.

So it is a fundamental teaching that has all sorts of ramifications, since we are, of course, making causes all the time, within our own lives and in relation to the lives of those with whom we come in contact, all day, every day, in everything we do say and think. Good causes, good effects; bad causes, bad effects. That process of linked causes and effects is going on all the time. So, in other words, where we are now, who we are now, how we act now, could be seen as the sum of all the causes we have made in the past, that have planted effects in our lives.

At the same time, the causes we are making now contain the seeds of our future. So, that is saying, the key factor in shaping our lives is how we respond to the situations that face us now.* However much we might feel it to be the case, we are not simply subject to chance and accident that come at us out of our environment. The key factor is how we respond to those situations, the causes that we make, and therefore the effects that we generate. The huge message of hope is that whatever has happened in the past, good, positive causes made now, will plant good effects in the future. [* underlining added]

Kyo:
Just as with myoho and renge, kyo has many meanings, but it is literally translated as 'sutra' or the voice or teaching of the Buddha. It also means vibration or sound. So it can be taken to represent the vibrations that spread out from someone in the process of chanting. Indeed there is a common Buddhist saying that 'the voice does the Buddha's work' and there is no question that the sound or the vibration that is created by a group of people chanting together, even quite a small group, can be very powerful indeed.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

3 Benefits of Consistent Practice and 4 Tips to Establishing One



I received a letter from a reader this morning. She wrote that she chants consistently for one week, and then stops chanting for a week and her anxiety and depression immediately comes back. Every other week she forces herself to chant again, and then stops. This is a very difficult way to practice. It is much easier to establish a twice a day practice and stick with it. But how do we do this? 

How can we establish and maintain a consistent practice? 

How can we reinforce our determination to practice twice a day every day, strengthen our lives and create unshakable benefit? 

3 benefits of consistent practice 
(Doing morning and evening gongyo and chanting daimoku consistently) 

1. It's easier. Once you establish the practice you just greet your life twice a day in front of the Gohonzon without having to force yourself to do it. It just becomes part of your life. 

2. Benefits flow more consistently, 

3. It WORKS! You change your karma, embrace your challenges and win over any challenge you face. You get what you want and so much more. 

4 Dynamic ways 
to establish a consistent practice

1. Determine that you want to use this practice to the best of your ability! Chanting consistently means winning the battle over your lesser self. Make your list of determinations and goals.  What have you decided is impossible in your life? We chant to make the impossible possible. Go for it. 

2. Embrace your friends in the SGI. (You can click on the SGI Portal to the right to find your local SGI, if you're not connected yet. Remember there are no dues or rules or priests. The SGI is an organization of people working together for their own happiness and the sake of others.) 

3. Establish a "Chanting Buddy" to chant with you.
Our friends in the SGI are our friends in faith. When I was first chanting 28 years ago my mentor came to my house every morning for a few weeks to help me generate Activation Energy for my practice.

4. Establish a Tele-Toso Chanting Buddy
If you can't chant together in person you can do it by telephone, or by text. Just establish a time and contact each other before and after. If you want, you can keep the telephone connection while you chant. (It's better if one person turns the volume down.) Or you can just call or text before and after. 

An Experience in Chanting Consistently: 

Chanting consistently must be experienced to be understood. 
My dear "Baby Buddha" (the nickname she chose for herself) heard me tell her for two years to chant every morning and evening, and she replied that she doesn't do ANYTHING consistently and wasn't going to do this. No way. I kept chanting for her and inviting her to chant. And one day, she just made the decision to try chanting twice a day to see how it felt. She couldn't believe how different she felt. She also realized a deep desire and began to chant for it to happen. Now she lives in Colorado - she got what she was chanting for! THIS is why we practice. Our desires are worth chanting for! 

You may have other ways of creating and maintaining your consistent practice. Please share them with me and I'll share them with the other readers of this blog. Email me at chantforhappiness.com with your ideas, questions, suggestions, victories and challenges.